When you’re going through a divorce, even the smallest joint decisions can seem difficult. Separating from a partner means that you will have the freedom to take matters into your own hands and create a new schedule without consulting your ex, right? In some cases, yes, but when it comes to a child custody arrangement, it’s important to put everything else aside and figure out a situation that works for everyone, primarily your kids. While this might be easier said than done, setting up a consistent and manageable schedule for your children should be a top priority for both you and your ex. In fact, a court will require such a schedule to be set out in a parenting plan before a divorce with children can be finalized. It is important to understand the main goals when designing and implementing an effective custody schedule.
Divorce is especially hard for children and can lead to stress, anxiety, and a feeling of grief. These feelings can be mitigated and handled by allowing your kids to see that although your relationship with their other parent is changing, they are still supported and heard. One of the most important things you and your ex can do for your children during this time is to provide a stable environment. If they are old enough, talk to them about creating a schedule together. This way they can be involved in the process and gain a bit of the control they might feel they are lacking. They will also see that even though you and your partner are no longer together, you are still on the same page with your parenting. Regardless of how involved your children are in the details of their custody arrangement, maintaining the schedule that you set up is important. Practice communicating about these changes with your ex to make sure that you set up a good process for adapting the schedule.
While stability and a predictable schedule are the foundation of a successful child custody arrangement, there will be times that plans change. Your child might ask to have both you and your ex at an event like a birthday party, sports match, or school play. Your ex might have tickets to a special event and ask to bring the children on a night when they are scheduled to stay at your house. Showing your children that their needs are your top priority sometimes means being flexible and adaptable to changing the schedule. Remember that your children are trying to maintain a normal life in which they spend time with both parents and sometimes, that requires a bit of an adjustment.
The process of going through a divorce can be difficult for everyone involved. If you are separating from your spouse, it is important to work with the right legal representation. The Law Offices of Piazza, Simmons & Grant, LLC have extensive experience with family law and child custody arrangements. We will work tirelessly to achieve the best outcome for you and your children. Call us today at 203-348-2465 or contact us online to set up your initial consultation.