posted in Divorce
on Thursday, November 10, 2011.
As should come as no surprise to many, marriage is not always bliss. In Connecticut, as well as other states, the divorce rate has been high for years. Some people who are considering divorce may feel like they have tried everything to make their marriage work. Even though reconciliation may not be for every couple, it may help some continue on without separating. By trying some of these activities suggested by a psychologist who works with couples, the relationship that marriage is based on may be strengthened.
Many specialists focus on the bond between two individuals. This bond can be solidified by having enjoyable experiences with one another, which may or may not stem from shared interests or desires. One such activity that comes out of this thought process is very simple: try watching a show that both spouses find interesting and enjoyable. By doing this, the couple is creating an easy conversation topic. Having a topic of conversation that both individuals agree on, whether it’s a television show or something completely different, can help keep tempers cool.
Other suggestions include complimenting one another. While it sounds simple, telling a partner how attractive he or she is can cut tension quickly.
Finally, tune out commentary about your relationship from others who are not involved. If people make hurtful or judgmental comments about your relationship, avoid talking about them. Instead, focus on getting along and enjoying the time you are spending together.
These all may seem rather simple, but they can be easy to forget. In some marriages, the love that brought them together seems to disappear after the honeymoon is over. By following these few steps, some couples may find happiness once again. But if differences cannot be resolved, it may be time for a separation.
Source: The Sacramento Bee, “How to keep marriage alive past the honeymoon,” Judi Light Hopson, Emma H. Hopson and Ted Hagen, Oct. 31, 2011