posted in Divorce
on Thursday, March 14, 2013.
One of the toughest times for people in Connecticut is when their marriages are coming to an end. Divorce may sound easy to acquire for some, but the fact of the matter is that a lot of emotions are often involved in the process. The procedures surrounding the process often take a considerable amount of time, giving both spouses ample time to lash out at one another or burn bridges that may never be repaired.
This sort of behavior should be avoided when it can be, especially in the case of splitting parents. These individuals will have to coexist in order to care for the child that they share – whether they like it or not. But custody determinations, support determinations, even property division – all of these can fuel the fire that many divorcing people find themselves feeling inside.
According to some professionals, this is because of a defense mechanism that has been instilled in humanity for years: fight or flight. This instinct causes many individuals to act differently than they normally would, allowing emotion to overcome rational thought. In order to address this, many people suggest learning to recognize situations and behaviors that indicate you or another person are acting out of character.
By doing this and then learning to wrangle these thoughts and potential behaviors before they get out of control, a divorcing spouse can take control and give themselves the ability to have a stable relationship with their ex. While the relationship may not be as good as it once was, it is much more likely to be stable if the divorce is not filled with emotional turmoil and accusations that are uncalled for.
Some experts suggest physical engagement such as exercise to address these sorts of thoughts. Others offer the option of relaxing, meditating or resting in order to keep these sorts of emotions in check.
Source: Huffington Post, “Your Brain On Divorce,” Michelle Crosby, March 4, 2013