posted in Divorce
on Friday, June 22, 2012.
There can be many ways for Connecticut couples to divorce. Often, couples will postpone a divorce because there are children involved, and they are afraid of a protracted legal battle that could last years and cost thousands of dollars. Acrimonious divorces can deleterious effects on parents’ relationships with their children, especially if the children are exposed to bitter arguments.
One of the best ways to try and avoid this kind of heated split is to utilize the services of a mediator. A mediator is a neutral third party who brings the divorcing couple together to help them address their issues and find areas of agreement. If spouses are willing to work together and communicate honestly, mediation can be an effective, and cheaper, way to divorce.
One woman recently shared the story of her mediated divorce. She said that she was traumatized early in her life by her parents’ bitter, long divorce battle. She said that her parents spent eight years in court fighting over how to divide their assets. The long battle left the spouses scarred, and they barely spoke to each other for the rest of their lives.
With those experiences in her mind, the woman and her husband spent six months with a mediator. The mediation also involved a social worker, psychologist and an attorney, who can all be brought in to help address possible sticking points. The woman and her ex-husband now have a mutual respect for each other, and they are able to make parenting decisions without everything turning into an argument.
The most important thing to remember in mediation is that spouses need to be willing to work together.
Source: The Daily Beast, “My Good Divorce: How One Woman Found Happiness Separating,” Priscilla Gilman, June 9, 2012