Going through a divorce is one of the hardest challenges a person can face. Dividing property, splitting finances, figuring out a new schedule, and balancing work, family, and friendships can feel totally overwhelming. During this stressful and difficult time, it can be very easy to lose yourself in the process of splitting up without much else to focus on. When you’re adjusting to life after a divorce, even small tasks can seem impossible. While every person will handle a divorce differently, there are a few strategies to keep in mind that can help keep you sane (or at least, able to cope).
Focus on small steps. It’s no secret that there will be a lot of difficult moments after a divorce. Regardless of the events that led to the decision, if it was mutual or if one person initiated it, there will be ups and downs for awhile. There is no quick way to jump over this time period, so it’s important to focus on small positive steps. Try to create a new routine for yourself that includes at least eight hours of sleep every night, healthy eating, and at least 30 minutes of exercise every day. It might sound simple but keeping all of these pieces in balance will help you cope with other more difficult aspects of your day.
Start a new tradition. Even a short relationship can carry reminders of activities that you and your partner did together. The longer you have been together, the more of your daily life is embedded with memories of trips to the grocery store, dinners at certain restaurants, and small traditions that remind you of your ex. So start a new tradition. Make a special dinner with your children one night a week, take your dog to a new park, or explore a new part of town every Saturday morning. Setting a new schedule will take your mind away from what you are used to doing and help you create new positive memories.
Set a healthy goal. Exercise is one of the best ways to quiet your thoughts and refocus your attention on a new task. Plus, it’s a great stress reducer and a great way to add something new to your routine. So sign up for a 10k race and commit to a new training schedule. Grab a friend and set up a weekly walk after work. Or join a new dance class that you’ve been wanting to try. Now is the time to step up your game and face a healthy new challenge. When you’re working towards a goal, you can occupy your mind with positive thoughts and place your attention on achieving your milestones.
Finding ways to cope during a divorce can make the process easier and can even increase the chances of an efficient and agreeable resolution to your case. If you are considering a divorce or have already started the process, you need an experienced legal representative on your side. The attorneys at Piazza, Simmons & Grant have extensive knowledge of divorce procedures and will work on your behalf to help you get a quick and just resolution. Call us today at 203-348-2465 or contact us online to set up an initial consultation.